…by Anura Guruge
>> Resolution For 2013: Befriend Your Brain … — Dec. 30, 2012.
If you stop and think about it it will become obvious that will power is definitely the wrong way to go about dieting — the keyword, however, being ‘THINK‘.
The ‘power’ in will power is a notion of strength, contention, enforcement. So, when you talk about ‘will power‘ upon who are you trying to enforce your will? If you think for a second, it will become obvious. Will power, cut to the chase, is us trying to control our brain! Will power is us fighting our brain. That is crazy. You seen those movies where they have the two heads talking to each other; the good and the evil. But, that is not what it really is. There is your conscious brain — which is what most of us think of as ‘us’. Everything we see, do, say, smell, touch, feel all comes from that. That is a part of our brain. There is another part that most ignore. You have to befriend that part. Once you have made friends with that part, your ‘real brain’ as I think of it, life gets so, so much easier. You don’t fight your brain as in will power. You make a polite request to your brain.
Yes, to be able to do that you need to be best friends with your brain — what I talked about in this post. If you have made progress on this, then the rest is easy.
Don’t try to use will power on your brain. You are fighting yourself. Instead, ask the brain nicely to help you. Seems to work. But, to be fair, my brain and I have been good friends for 40 years now and we know each other extremely well. So much so that I can talk with him in shorthand. He understands. So, I did have a quick chat with him last week. Last Tuesday. Told him that our one year ‘treat’ was over and we need to lose weight. So far, so good. Yes, very early days. But, I have a very good track record of losing weight, quickly, when I set myself to do it — meaning I get around to actually telling my brain.
Just something to share. Yes, I am very familiar with Oscar Wilde’s saying: ‘I have a very good will power, I can resist anything but temptation‘. Yes, I jokingly use that line, but knowing deep down that will power plays no role.